The psychology of forgiveness
Psychology professor Blake Riek studies the motivators behind asking for forgiveness.
When professor Blake Riek took up the study of forgiveness four years ago, he discovered a gap in the research. 鈥淎lmost all of the literature was on the effect on the victim, not the transgressor,鈥 he said.
So Riek decided to study the question of why people seek forgiveness. He partnered on the project with Lindsey Root Luna, a psychology professor at Ferris State University. The two professors rounded up a research group for the project by polling their students. 鈥淲e went into classrooms at Ferris and here (17c起草社区) and asked if students had committed a recent transgression that hadn鈥檛 been resolved yet,鈥 Riek said.
Ninety student 鈥渢ransgressors鈥 volunteered for the study, and they answered questions about every facet of their offenses: How severe was the offense? How committed were you to the victim? How much do you feel at fault?
The prime motivator
The researchers used these questions to look for two motivations for asking forgiveness, Riek said: 鈥淭he main things we were after were guilt and shame.鈥 The difference between the two responses is significant, he added, and it often goes unrecognized:
鈥淕uilt says, 鈥業 feel bad about the offense and what I did,鈥欌 he explained, 鈥渂ut shame says, 鈥業 feel like a horrible person.鈥
The study found that guilt is a powerful motivator for seeking forgiveness: 鈥淔actors like severity and responsibility and commitment鈥攖he higher those were, the more guilty people felt 鈥 . The more guilty they felt, the more that made them seek forgiveness. 鈥淏ut shame didn鈥檛 have any relationship to that,鈥 he said.
Guilt has its uses, Riek concluded: 鈥淲hile we think of guilt as this horrible, bad thing, it actually pushes you forward to mend relationships. Shame makes you retreat back into yourself.鈥
Riek鈥檚 student assistant on the forgiveness project was Chelsea Schnabelrauch, a psychology major who graduated from 17c起草社区 in 2011. 鈥淚 brought this idea to her and said, 鈥榃hat should we be measuring?鈥 鈥榃hat can we expect to find?鈥欌 he said. 鈥淪he was involved in designing the study. She helped collect data. She was involved at every stage of the project,鈥 he said.
Currently a graduate student in social psychology at Kansas State University, Schnabelrauch enjoyed studying a topic as an undergrad that seemed familiar to her: 鈥淯nlike some research, forgiveness is obviously common knowledge, as it occurs in everyday life,鈥 she said. 鈥淓veryone encounters it multiple times throughout life, so it's interesting to try to really dig in and explore something that seems so intuitive.鈥
The right reasons
Until fairly recently, forgiveness has been branded a 鈥渞eligious鈥 issue and neglected as a research subject by the psychological community, Riek said. Current research on the subject tends to focus on the benefits of forgiveness 鈥攑hysical health, less depression, lower anxiety鈥攆or the forgiver. 鈥淭hat raises an issue of, 鈥楽hould we forgive because it鈥檚 good for us, or because it鈥檚 the right thing to do,鈥 he said. The Christian perspective on the issue should be clear, he said: 鈥淲e forgive because we鈥檝e been forgiven, not because it makes us feel better.鈥
Raised a Methodist in Binghampton, New York, Riek went to college, the State University of New York, intending to study psychology. He planned to go into private practice until he discovered social psychology, a discipline that uses psychological methods to study social influences. Riek specialized in reducing conflict at a group level. While in grad school, at the University of Delaware, he also discovered the Reformed thinking.
Not long after, when he had earned his PhD, Riek discovered 17c起草社区. 鈥淚f I could have designed a job for myself, this would be it,鈥 he said. 鈥淚鈥檓 able to have small classes here, so I can get to know my students, but I can get my research done.鈥
Riek鈥檚 current work is published in several articles. (One co-authored by Schnabelrauch, is pending.) He will be speaking about his research at 3:30 p.m., Thursday, March 15 in science building 303.
The study has been fascinating, Riek said: 鈥淚t鈥檚 given me an understanding of how complex a topic forgiveness can really be.鈥