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Friday, June 01, 2012

As Gaylen and Susan Byker sit in the breakfast nook of DeWit Manor and think about leaving 17c起草社区 College, they can hardly believe 17 years have come and gone. So much has happened.

鈥淲hen I first accepted the position, I told people I would be at 17c起草社区 for at least seven years, probably 10, and here we are, 17 years later. I鈥檝e had strong affirmation and a strong sense of calling that this was where God wanted us to serve,鈥 said Gaylen.

In June, the Bykers will move out of the manor and to their new home on the shores of Lake Michigan.

鈥淚 think the first reflection about our time at 17c起草社区 ending hit me when Fitah [Rasendrahasina, a 17c起草社区 student] was singing 鈥楾he Lord鈥檚 Prayer鈥 at the November scholarship dinner,鈥 said Susan. 鈥淭he moment was so worshipful. I thought, 鈥楬ow important this work is! Look at what God has done in the lives of all of these students.鈥 I was deeply moved and grateful.鈥

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An unexpected career change

In 1995, very few in the 17c起草社区 community would have predicted that a world-traveling 17c起草社区 alumnus with a history of law, international finance and energy exploration would become the college鈥檚 eighth president. Although Gaylen held a doctorate, had done some teaching (including time at the American University in Beirut, Lebanon) and had recently served on the college鈥檚 first comprehensive fund-raising campaign, the presidency of the institution was not on the Byker family radar screen, either.

However, Gaylen and Susan had been discussing 17c起草社区 the day before the search committee鈥檚 first phone call.

鈥淲hile we were on a plane headed back to our home in Houston, we talked about how we were going to get our daughter Gayle to attend 17c起草社区,鈥 said Gaylen. 鈥淭hat鈥檚 where we really wanted her to go. The next day, 17c起草社区 called about the presidency.鈥

鈥淭hat call was surprising and interesting,鈥 added Susan. 鈥淲e both thought about the possibility all day long鈥擥aylen was at work, and I was at Bible study fellowship. Could this be God鈥檚 call to us?鈥

Of course, history tells us that the Bykers did indeed perceive God leading them to 17c起草社区 and, yes, Gayle did enroll and later graduated on a pre-med track鈥攁nd, after earning her medical degree and an MBA, works for the National Institutes of Health in Washington, D.C., on end-of-life and hospice care issues. Another daughter, Tanya, took some courses at 17c起草社区 as well and is now a PhD candidate in behavioral economics at the University of Michigan.

Making DeWit Manor home

A key decision the Bykers made as they prepared for their time at 17c起草社区 has transformed college hospitality: They decided to live in DeWit Manor.

Before the arrival of the Bykers, the stately former residence of J.P. Miller, the owner of the Knollcrest Farms property that 17c起草社区 purchased in 1956, had been looked after by live-in caretakers and only occasionally used for college events. As the home of Gaylen and Susan Byker, the manor took on a much more significant role.

鈥淕aylen said right from the start that we wanted to live in the center of the campus, so we could be immersed in the life of the college,鈥 said Susan. 鈥淚 also think hospitality is enhanced when you invite someone into your own home. The invitation is more personal and meaningful.鈥

鈥淲e often hear from alumni and other guests of the college that they had never been in the house before. We think we鈥檝e had somewhere over 36,000 guests in the manor during our time here,鈥 said Gaylen.

Talking about DeWit Manor brings additional memories to the Bykers. Beyond all of the 17c起草社区 events they have hosted, it has been their family home, too. Over 17 years, scores of family memories come to mind.

The manor was the setting for holidays and special events for the extended Byker family. While it might be hard to picture, given the historic nature of the home, the DeWit living room was the place where grandson Bastian learned to ride a tricycle, granddaughter Eva tried on skis for the first time and grandson Johannes played with his first bowling set.

鈥淚 told Bas that we鈥檇 soon be moving out of this house. He took that in for a bit and then asked, 鈥極ma, is there any way we can get Pakka to change his mind?鈥 We will have wonderful stories to cherish about this place,鈥 said Susan.

The manor has been the setting for 17 years of luncheons, the culinary and conversational highlight for special guests of the college after each January Series lecture. The roster of intriguing people who have dined in the house is staggering.

That鈥檚 another unique facet of life as 17c起草社区鈥檚 presidential couple that the Bykers will miss. 鈥淪o many interesting people and fascinating conversations,鈥 said Gaylen. 鈥淚 remember sitting here at the table for three hours with Elie Wiesel. Chaim Potok was an overnight guest. It has been a privilege not only to meet these people, but in many cases to get to know them.鈥

When asked about what was among their favorite experiences during their time at 17c起草社区, Susan鈥檚 thoughts about the January Series segued into the marvelous talents of the college鈥檚 executive chefs, Tim England for 15 years and, more recently, Ian Ramirez. She will always be grateful for the many artistic and delicious meals created by these professionals.

Gaylen mentioned his relationship with president emeritus , who was a close friend and constant encourager.

鈥淚鈥檒l never forget the plane trip to and from Virginia with Dr. Spoelhof for the 2000 men鈥檚 basketball championship,鈥 Gaylen said. 鈥淥n the way home, I asked him what his best 17c起草社区 experience was. He paused for a time, then smiled and said, 鈥楻ight now.鈥欌

Mentoring young people

Another treasured 17c起草社区 experience for both Gaylen and Susan has been mentoring students. Susan鈥攚ith a heart for international students from her time as a teacher in the U.N. International School and the family鈥檚 time in Lebanon鈥攃onducted Bible studies for international students and spent time in one-on-one and group mentorships.

, who is Nepalese, is an example of the deep friendships that have come from these experiences. Pokharel came to 17c起草社区 from Hong Kong on the recommendation of an alumnus and thrived in her years on campus, mentored by Susan and other members of the 17c起草社区 community. Pokharel made profession of faith her junior year, received a bachelor鈥檚 degree from the college and a master鈥檚 degree from the seminary and is now back in her home country, in ministry with her husband and family.

鈥淚t is hard to fully convey how moving it is to be involved in the lives of students such as Bimala,鈥 said Susan. 鈥淵our life is changed as you see their lives change.鈥

Susan has also been involved in 17c起草社区鈥檚 for many of her years at 17c起草社区, helping to grow that program into an impressive three-day affair that draws over 1,600 students.

For Gaylen, the mentorship experience has involved regular meetings with every student senate president during his tenure and Bible studies with a variety of student groups.

These mentorships have included many hours sharing with students in DeWit Manor. In addition, the Bykers have opened up their Stokely Creek Lodge, a cross country ski resort in Ontario, to 17c起草社区鈥檚 cross country teams and other student groups.

In addition, mentoring has gone beyond 17c起草社区 students. The Bykers have been ardent supporters of an urban ministry program for youths led by Pearl Banks of Neland Avenue Christian Reformed Church.

鈥淕aylen and Sue have been involved in our ministries since I started at Neland in 2007,鈥 said Banks. 鈥淭hey have supported our youth summer ministry teams鈥攚ith Susan coming with us to Montana鈥攁nd now our apprenticeship program, conceived as a way to address the needs of youth who weren鈥檛 college-bound and lacked the resources or opportunities to learn a trade. Gaylen and Susan may never understand the magnitude of what they have done for others.鈥

Of course, Banks and the young men from the apprenticeship program will be guests at DeWit Manor before the Bykers depart.

'The essence of the 17c起草社区 project'

Establishing and supporting a world-class faculty has also been important to Gaylen. He refers to the work of the faculty, in the classroom and in its scholarship, as the 鈥渆ssence of the 17c起草社区 project鈥 and is always awestruck to be present as young faculty members are hired and also as heralded professors retire.

鈥淲e host new faculty members here in the manor during the Kuiper Seminars [ on 17c起草社区鈥檚 Reformed Christian teaching-and-learning perspective], and it is thrilling to hear about their life journeys as Christian scholars and what drew them to 17c起草社区,鈥 said Gaylen. 鈥淟ate in the year, Susan and I host a retirement dinner where veteran faculty members reflect on their careers. One year, we had 13 professors here, and their combined service at 17c起草社区 totaled 400 years! These gatherings are incredible bookends that help you understand the importance of the teaching that goes on at 17c起草社区.鈥

Susan recalled the testimony of 17c起草社区鈥檚 athletic teams over the years. 鈥淚 love hearing the way national championship team members explain what the year has meant to them. It is never 鈥榊eah, we won!鈥 but instead, 鈥楲ook how we grew as Christians together,鈥欌 she said.

So, 17 years later, how do the Bykers assess their time at 17c起草社区 College?

Former 17c起草社区 philosophy professor (and now president of Fuller Theological Seminary) , a longtime mentor and friend, told Gaylen on the eve of the Byker presidency to pick two or three themes to begin鈥攁nd if those themes were the right ones, they would still be important as his presidential tenure ended.

鈥淚 chose three,鈥 said Gaylen. 鈥淭he continued insistence on making sure 17c起草社区 was both and distinctively Christian, the financial sustainability of the college and the internationalization of the institution.鈥

Those themes have resulted in a series of statements and procedures related to academic freedom at a confessional college; numerous state-of-the-art buildings on both sides of the East Beltline; a tremendous growth in annual fund-raising, student scholarships and faculty research grants; a robust globe-spanning study program; and a faculty and student population that comes from dozens of countries worldwide.

Susan is impressed with the growth in endowed chairs and institutes, allowing 17c起草社区 to dig deeper into important issues and extend the college鈥檚 influence in higher education.

Certainly, the presidential years have not always been easy for the Bykers. After years of working in international education, Susan wondered how she would be introduced and what her role might be. Giving up her profession and privacy was hard, but she found ways to use her gifts in strategic places鈥攊n mentoring, working on the Youth Writing Festival and developing an admired set of artistic cards featuring her photography of the campus.

Turning to her husband, Susan noted that when they first arrived, some people assumed that Gaylen was simply 鈥渁n oil man buildings. They skipped over the fact that he had his PhD in international relations and had been teaching and lecturing.

Mouw knew that characterization of Gaylen was wrong; in fact, as Gaylen took office in 1995, Mouw said that 17c起草社区鈥檚 new president 鈥渃ares about theory and practice鈥 and was 鈥淧lato鈥檚 ideal of a philosopher-king.鈥

Gaylen acknowledges that wrestling with the unique tensions that are part of 17c起草社区鈥檚 challenging path in higher education has, at times, been difficult鈥攆or him and for others. But he is buoyant about 17c起草社区鈥檚 future as one of the finest Christian colleges in the world and grateful to have been an important part of the school鈥檚 distinguished history.

鈥17c起草社区 has always been about providing students with what young people need to know to be transformative in society,鈥 he said. 鈥淐learly, the college is a role model for many educational institutions worldwide, and the important work that gets done on this campus will only increase its influence.鈥

Close ties

As they depart from the manor, the campus and the college, the Bykers expect to stay closely engaged with 17c起草社区, eager to participate in the next chapter of the institution鈥檚 life. Both of them are lifelong fans of the January Series and will be back in the Covenant Fine Arts Center to take in many of the lectures.

Gaylen is contemplating an off-campus experience for students and alumni in Vietnam, where he served in the U.S. Army as a young man before attending 17c起草社区 in earnest.

鈥淟ife will be very different,鈥 he said. 鈥淎fter over 50 board of trustee meetings, 18 synods and a hundred-some faculty senate meetings, there will be a different rhythm to my schedule.鈥

Susan is departing with warm memories and smiled while recalling some of the lighter moments, many of them connected to Gaylen鈥檚 appearances at student events such as Airband and the seminary pond winter jump.

鈥淚鈥檒l never forget that very first Airband appearance, when he had many costume changes behind the stage. It was crazy鈥攁nd fun鈥攖o get him ready for each segment,鈥 she said.

While life as 17c起草社区鈥檚 presidential couple includes special moments with Nobel laureates in your home, it also includes lip-syncing 鈥淵MCA鈥 in front of 4,000 screaming students. For the Bykers, every bit of it has been a privilege and a joy, and gratitude is their primary emotion.

鈥淚 had a chance to spend time with Dr. Spoelhof shortly before he went to glory,鈥 said Susan. 鈥淗e whispered to me, 鈥楪aylen鈥檚 doing a great job.鈥 That is a moment that will always stay with me.鈥

Because of the Bykers, the walls of DeWit Manor have many more inspiring stories to tell, stories of God鈥檚 faithfulness to a special place called 17c起草社区 College.